Sexual arousal in men is a complex process. This includes the processing of external information (what the stronger sex sees and hears), the psychological preparation for sex, the expectation of pleasure and the immediate physiological response of the body. How this process happens in guys and how to speed up arousal is useful for every woman.
Where does it all begin?
Excitement is triggered by various sensory stimuli. A girl's smell, kiss and touch, appearance (especially without clothes) stimulate the centers in the brain that send signals to the genitals through the nervous system.
Hormones are involved in this process. Dr. John Bancroft, an American sexologist and the 4th part-time director of the Kinsey Institute for Sex Research, claims that the level of testosterone in the blood determines the degree of arousal of a person. This conclusion was made as a result of the study, the results of which were published in the Journal of Endocrinology in the article "Endocrinology of Sexual Arousal".
As a result, an erection occurs. This is the filling of the cavernous bodies of the penis with blood. Muscles contract and prevent venous outflow, thanks to which the penis becomes hard and increases (on average 3-4 times), pulsation is felt. Usually, this reaction occurs within a few seconds of sexual stimulation. Interestingly, during foreplay the erection may weaken and strengthen again - this is completely normal.
The British Journal of Urology International published a study conducted among 20, 000 men. The dimensions of their genitals were measured. Men from all over the world participated. As a result, it became known that the average size of the penis at rest is 9. 16 cm, and 13. 12 cm during erection.
There are three types of erection. One of them - nocturnal (spontaneous) - occurs without sexual tones. The other two are accompanied by sexual arousal in men.
Psychogenic (or psychological) - occurs against the background of stimulation of centers in the brain. Nerve impulses are transmitted to the spinal cord, and further along the nerves to the reproductive system.
Reflex - occurs as a result of touching the genitals. Because this organ has many nerve endings and its skin is very sensitive, even a light touch can cause irritation and blood flow to the penis.
In addition to an erection, a man's pulse quickens, his breathing quickens, and his blood pressure rises (in half of the population, women). Vegetation may become thick and dense, the testicles will rise. The upper part of the body is slightly red. Lubricating fluid is secreted and facilitates the passage of sperm through the canal.
What turns men on?
In addition to the beautiful image (naked woman, or in lace underwear, dancing, seducing, etc. ), foreplay plays a big role. Men also need it to make their arousal as strong as possible. The surest way for a girl to turn a guy on is to stimulate his sensitive areas. These include:
- Head, neck and chest;
- Abdomen (especially the lower part) and back;
- Genital organs and surrounding areas.
Foreplay usually starts with a kiss. A girl's passionate kiss can already induce an erection and boost a guy's mood. There are many nerve endings in the lips, besides, he feels the sexuality of his partner and waits for the upcoming sex. In this case, you can stroke the nape of the neck with your hands, this area is also very sensitive. Many men enjoy kissing and biting their earlobes, but be careful with this process, as there are some who do not like it at all.
The lower abdomen (below the navel) is a great area to caress before oral sex. Suitable for back erotic massage. By the way, this can be done not only with your hands, but also with your lips, hair, bare chest.
Everything is clear with the genitals - any movement in this area is acceptable and sexually arousing in men. You should be careful about sudden movements, guys may fear for the safety of their dignity. Blowjob, manual technique - all this maximizes the desire of the partner. Nearby areas include internal numbers that you can stroke with your hand.
Representatives of the stronger sex get excited very quickly. But they need more time than women to rest and fully recover after sex (from several hours to a day), because the process requires more energy from them. Therefore, repeated sexual arousal does not occur quickly in all men and should be treated with understanding.
Sexual arousal in men
When you see a partner who is sexually attractive to you, you are first turned on psychologically and then physically. But how this happens is a little-known question for most people. What does science say? He considers arousal to be a physiological sexual response.
More precisely, its first stage. In other words, a whole series of processes. There are no gender differences in them: increased breathing and heart rate, the appearance of muscle tension, increased blood pressure, salivation, dilated pupils, the appearance of redness and goose bumps, as well as breast erection.
Psychological behavior, attitude and voice changes with sexual arousal. This is due to the release of hormones into the blood, which act like drugs on the body. In men, in addition to the above, there is an erection of the penis, an increase in the cavity to the lobe, its swelling and thickness, as well as the release of ejaculate to lubricate the head.
In women, additional lubrication occurs, thinning or, on the contrary, enlargement of the labia majora (depending on whether the woman has given birth or not), clitoral erection, lifting and enlargement of the uterus, tension and increase in the pubosacral muscles. sheath length.
By the way, if reddening of the skin is rarely observed in men, then in women, blood flow occurs not only on the clitoris and labia, but also on the chest and back. In some women, this flushing is so noticeable that the chest down to the shoulders and neck may become red during and after orgasm.
Why are there so many reactions? They are associated with the body's rapid flow of blood to achieve greater sensitivity of the genitals and preparation for the second phase of the cycle of sexual reactions - intercourse. After the oral phase: the plateau phase (sexual intercourse), the orgasm phase and the termination phase of sexual reactions.
The awakening phase may not occur. It is often a physical problem rather than a psychological one. Erectile dysfunction (impotence) is a disorder in which the strength of an erection is insufficient for sexual intercourse. There are three types of impotence: psychological, organic and mixed.
Erectile dysfunction in most men is associated with organic type of various diseases. The most common causes are cardiovascular disease, diabetes and hormonal disorders. The quality of blood supply to the organs and the hormonal level are disturbed.
Some diseases, bad habits, taking some drugs, especially those affecting the central nervous system, and with a sedentary lifestyle, blood flow to the pelvic organs deteriorates, so the main reaction of sexual arousal does not occur in men - filling of the cavernous bodies with blood.
Drugs, alcohol, and smoking affect not only the physical but also the psychological state, so impotence changes from an organic form to a mixed form. You can't put off this situation, it can be easily fixed first. You should consult a urologist or a sex therapist.
Men are more sexually aroused than when they reach orgasm. Prolonged abstinence can seriously damage the body in general and the genitals in particular. A favorite motto of women is "we excite you and we don't let you down" is good in moderation - this kind of entertainment should not be overused. Sexual dissatisfaction has a significant impact on not only physical, but also mental health. The man is agitated, angry and irritable. Continuous orgasm is an important condition for the normal functioning of the body. And there is no difference in how to get it - during sex or masturbation.